Nothing Quite Like Us

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a-little-insane:

the best part about being the little spoon while cuddling is being able to rub your butt against the person’s junk

The best part about being the big spoon while cuddling is getting to rub your junk against the person’s butt

The best part about the big spoon as that it lets me get bigger portions of ice cream as I cry alone in my room.

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fourfucks:

all fandoms have that one fucking overused quote that is on 99.9% of the  edits 

#genius billionaire playboy philanthropist gripped you tight and raised you from a highly functioning sociopath and i swear we were infinite

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systemofadowny:

What girls need to understand is that if you post photos of yourself coming off as promiscuous or sexually inviting, you are bound to get creepy or sexually dominating comments from random people. Although, yes it is wrong and I do not condone that, it’s unfair to objectify and demean a woman whom wants to show her body off. You have to be ready for the people who don’t agree with that, or who find your image provocative. There is a fine line between empowerment of your sexuality and seeking ego boosting attention, that’s not necessarily wrong, everyone likes a bit of loving, but it will happen.

buh dey hev n0 righ7 to wan 2 fuk mi

I don’t think any woman is unaware that men want our junk. Whether our clothes are on or off, we’ve been told our ENTIRE lives that ‘boys only want one thing’ yadayadayada. So no, I don’t think that when we get upset that we have guys talking about their cocks in our inbox that it should be taken as shock or like we didn’t expect it. I’m going to stop saying we now, but I personally get upset not from surprise, but from their lack of control. The first step in objectifying women (in this scenario) is eerily portrayed in your language. “Sexually inviting” and “promiscuous” are not the expression of nudity. There is an assumption being made that the OP is not a part of. There is NO invitation (unless they say so) and nudity is not an expression of how many sexual partners you’ve had. One of the people I follow makes body gifs and they are a virgin.

 I’ve read enough of the notes, comments, and messages on my gifs and pictures to have picked up on a pattern. “I want that.” “I need that” “She will be mine”. That is the second step in objectifying me. Most people who follow me intently for even a couple days understand that I’m human and that my nudity is only one of many ways I express myself. People who objectify me choose look past all of what the others see and are only thinking ‘I want, I can haz?’ I am made only sexual by them. I am clearly not only sexual. So when I get messages like ‘girlllll dat ass, I want my face all up in there’, all I can see is a guy who does not see me as a whole but as sex. Don’t get me wrong, sometimes I am shocked by how fucking far these guys go, but not that they’re there in general. 

I think the last thing we need to continue telling women is “If you do this, expect this” and leave it at that. I can expect to be groped if I stand on a crowded bus, but that doesn’t make it okay and you would probably agree. That person is still looking at me like ‘I want that. I can haz?’ and fuck that noise. But for some reason, when women take their clothes off its like “OHHHH game over, we can’t control ourselves, its your fault, PENIS INCOMING”. We deserve to be respected no matter what. If we say that we don’t want to be approached in a sexual manner, its all on you to respect that. You can’t just scream “what did you expect?!” and think that solves the problem. It is not our fault that men think this way. It is not our fault that a lot of men cannot control themselves. I should not have to stop doing what I enjoy because someone cannot respect me. They will learn to or they will leave, those are their choices. Not “okay, I understand, I’m naked. I know I can’t stop you because I expected to be treated this way”. Nah, fuck those guys, I’m kickin’ you out. You gotta leave the party if you can’t keep your dick in check. 

“fine line between empowerment of your sexuality and seeking ego boosting attention” I want to pay special attention to this real quick. You’re now defining why a girl has done something, as neither that person or a woman. That is not a line for you to draw. 

Now see, I expect most men to read this and think ‘Too long, didn’t read’ or ‘stfu whiner’ etc etc etc, but it will still be disrespectful and I will still not like it. Pretty clear?

*oh and liquid, you kinda look like a jerk lol. They have the ‘right’ to objectify me, as any cop would laugh in my face if I called him up over a “I want yo pussy girl” comment (and rightfully so, as there is no real threat being made to my physical being), but it still doesn’t make it okay. Making fun of the girls who are upset that men (AND SOME WOMEN) can’t keep their shit together makes you look like a jerk lol. 

This right here ladies and gent is why I follow this beautiful woman. (Just saying)

No, no—I think there’s something to be said for user systemofadowny’s point of view as well as user ixnay-on-the-oddk’s. Try to consider both points of view.
Listen, I am a girl and I deliberately choose not to dress promiscuously or post suggestive content of my body online—or anywhere else for that matter. I choose not to post nudes, or even pictures of me in sexy underwear/promiscuous clothes because I know the following things:

a) If I were to consciously decide post a picture that is overly sexual, I realize that at some point, someone somewhere will probably just think SEX OBJECT and leave some brutal comment. I AM NOT DEFENDING THAT BEHAVIOUR, and neither is systemofadowny, IT IS WRONG. But what I find to be true is that a person can’t act all surprised and offended when a shameless dick leaves a message regarding a provocative photo that they posted willingly. (TAKING INTO CONSIDERATION that the photo/gif is seriously, actually, “provocative” as in: glorifying sex and lust.) It’s just so much easier to be like: if you don’t want nasty comments left about your “fine ass”, or your “tits”, or your “pussy”, then don’t even give those perverted strangers the opportunity to see them or make immature, nasty observations on them.

b) Sure, there are those shameless dicks out there, but what about the guys who try their best to respect women? There are really good, brilliant, decent, commendable guys out there who honestly would rather you didn’t. (I personally know young men like this—guys like my friend who actually pushed his way into a attempted rape situation, yanked the girl out of that bedroom, and took her home to her parents without expecting a single thing in return, so don’t try and tell me otherwise.) It’s like a slap in the face to them. Imagine them seeing that photo of you—imagine how frustrating it would be to hear *certain* (not all) women complaining about how “ALL men are PIGS and instead of forcing women to dress conservatively or act respectfully, THEY should just NOT LOOK” and then later that night, they’re scrolling through their dashboard and that same girl has posted a picture of herself lying naked on her bed with an innocent expression and the caption: “it’s soooooo hot in my room, I can’t even sleeeeep” and THEN that girl later posts a response to horny anon over there, saying: “WHYYYY can’t guys just stop turning EVERYTHING I DO into SEX!?!??!?!? I’M A PERSON TOO YOU KNOW”. I WOULDN’T BLAME THAT POOR BOY IF HE THREW HIS COMPUTER RIGHT THROUGH A WALL, OKAY?

c) So, there’s the dicks, and there’s the nice guys, but there’s also—just as equally great, commendable, admirable—guys who honestly want to stop  over-sexualizing women, but they’ve struggled with it or they are struggling with it. He might not be the guy to put a nasty comment in your ask but that’s because this *particular* kind of guy is ashamed. He feels dirty, worthless, horrible for thinking of yet another girl in this nasty way, like he failed. Consider that. Maybe there are *some* people out there who really just don’t need or want that stimulation while they’re trying to meet your standards.

d) Yes, there is a time and place where nudity is beautiful, sex is beautiful, like honest-to-God art, I get that, I even defend that—but, no, a person can’t take some raunchy photo of themselves with their phone *with the intention of posting it to tumblr for notes or attention*, and then *later* try to defend it or point fingers at “disgusting pigs/asses who can’t control their dicks” by saying it’s art.
If you want to express your creative self, artistically, with your body, take it to an art crowd, not a porn crowd, because the attention you’ll receive for your expression will be very different. And if you’re putting your expressions out to the general public, (like posting it on tumblr) you’ll get a mix of all kinds of responses.

If you are honestly, openly looking for that sort of attention on purpose? Then fine, do what you want, it IS your body, after all. But don’t turn around after you get some comment and expect anyone to act like you’re a victim. Also, be aware of your audience. Not EVERYONE appreciates when women objectify THEMSELVES. Mostly, be aware of what kind of world you live in.

Do whatever you want with your body, BUT KNOW THAT it is YOUR ACTION, taking nudes and CHOOSING, of your own free will, to post them to the public, that opened up the opportunity for nasty comments. THAT is YOUR responsibility. You put EVERYONE WHO SEES THOSE PICTURES in a position… Guess what? They are just as ENTITLED to the way they PERCEIVE them as you are entitled to post them. THEN it is the ACTION they take afterward that THEY will have to account for.
It’s a case of “YOU shouldn’t have teased him with that candy, and YOU shouldn’t have taken that candy when you knew it wasn’t yours. Now BOTH of you go sit in separate corners.”

(The previous rant was not a comment or observation on rape, bullying, etc. While rape is wrong, bullying is wrong and I could write books about how wrong those both are, this particular post was only about posting suggestive content online and dealing with feedback that stems from it)
(All gender terms can be exchanged in my argument. I get it, all genders can be horny assbutts to all genders, etc.)

Lemme clear a few things up.

We’re all agreeing here that if a man or a woman objectifies another person it is wrong. We’re all agreeing that women (and men) should not have to receive messages that objectify them. I guess the thing we’re disagreeing on here is whether or not the person receiving the messages is justified in their irrate response. From what I’ve understood, the both of you believe that these women are 1) Objectifying themselves, 2) Are trying to arouse people, 3) Men who do not behave inappropriately should be applauded. I know that you specified towards the end that this was not a discussion of rape, but I think I need to make the point that both of your reasoning is alarmingly similar to that of a rape apologist. “I agree that you should not have to go through this, but it is still in some way your fault. You put yourself in that position, stop crying”. That being said, lets get into this.

1) These women are objectifying themselves

To objectify means to degrade to the status of a mere object. I have a strong feeling that the women who post personal nude content do not perceive themselves as an object. A personal blog is generally a collection of things that you feel make you who you are, right? Each post is a quality, aspect, etc of you. When I post about my job, I am not only an employed person. When I post about my BPD, I am not only a mentally ill person. When I post my face, I am not only what my face looks like. When I post my body, I am not only my body. I am not an object, I have never seen myself as a body made to sexually serve others, therefore I am not the one objectifying myself. When someone degrades me to a body only meant to sexually please them, they are overlooking the many other posts I’ve made about myself that have nothing to do with sex or my body. They choose to do that. They are responsible for the objectification. 

2) These women intend to arouse people

I’m going to take this one down in two parts.

(a) We must remember that the human body’s purpose is not solely sex. Our bodies are capable of thousands of things, only one of them being sex. The idea that nudity equals sex has a lot to do with our society’s view of women and what is ‘decent’. That idea is very very limiting and very very harmful. So when someone is posting themselves nude, sex may never even be on their mind. Not everyone agrees that nudity and sex are automatically related. To use your example, if a person is in bed naked because its hot (I’m doing that right now, what do you know! Heat waves are dumb) and decides to post a picture, that really may be all they’re trying to express. “I am really warm right now”. For someone to then send a message like “Oo0o0o0 girl I’ll drop some ice on dem titties while I fuck you”, that person has made a non-sexual situation sexual and has implimented their desires on an unwilling participant. 

(b) I have posted personal nude content while horny and aroused. I think my body is beautiful, it operates pretty well, and it can be sexy. Sometimes I post personal nude content biting my lip or running my hand to my underwear, because I like it and I think its sexy. Just like posting about pokemon, my hair, and cookies I am saying “Look, I like this,” not ,”Hey, I want you, person I’ve never met, to do this to me”. The only time that personal nude content is a sexual invitation is when the person whom that body belongs to says so. If a person is posting personal nude content and shoots down/expresses anger towards every sexual advance, they are not inviting you. Case closed.

3) Men who do not behave inappropriately should be applauded

I do not get a pat on the back for not kicking every one of you in the face if a lot people are kicking you in the face. There is no award for being a decent human being. If you want to be appreciated for EXCEPTIONAL behavior, support women. Not doing bad things to women is not supporting women. To support women you can try sending them messages that makes them feel appreciated and respected. When a woman is encountering inappropriate behavior, defend her, do not blame her. You are not doing me a favor by not objectifying me. I do not deserve to be objectified so you don’t get cool points for not doing it.

Now that I feel I’ve addressed the main concerns, I want to talk about some other things that you said that are problematic. They’re all things that I see often and have wanted to address for a while, and now seems like the perfect time…

1) A lot of people seem to think nudity is only okay if its artistic or ‘tasteful’

This is plain and simple a preference being taken too far. I personally believe it is wrong to say that something is ‘not okay’ if it is not harmful. If whatever you’re doing isn’t hurting anybody, my opinion on what you’re doing does not matter. For instance, I personally find penises (is there a legitimate plural form of penis? lol) unattractive. I don’t wanna see them. It doesn’t hinder my quality of life when I look at a penis I didn’t want to look at. It would be wrong for me to punish that person for posting something I find unattractive. I am not a fan of ‘raunchy’ sexual expression either, but it doesn’t make it wrong or worthy of harassment. If you’re shoving your fist in your booty because it makes you happy, congratulations for expressing yourself how you want to regardless of (not to sound too spiteful) people who will inevitably try to stop you because you make them uncomfortable. That is a big step in becoming/being an independent&happy person and I’m proud of you.

2) Male guilt

Somewhere you said something about making men feel bad for ‘failing’ to control their thoughts when there is female nudity presented to them. I want to make it very clear that you are not wrong for wanting to fuck me, you are only ‘wrong’ if you express that you want to fuck me when I’ve asked you not to.Don’t feel guilty! If you find yourself thinking “oh god, I wanna stick my wiener in there but I know she wouldn’t like that”, cool beans brah, just respect me enough to keep those thoughts to yourself and problem solved. 

3) Its bad to do things for attention

This is essentially the same concept as the first. It is only ‘bad’ if its hurting someone. We can all agree that attention feels nice, right? Oh but I know, society has brought us up to believe that strong people, good people, respectable people do not seek attention. We all do (in our own ways), because its perfectly fucking natural to like and desire attention, validation, etc. You have every right to have an opinion of someone who is seeking attention (in a way that does not hurt people) but you cross a line when you  shame, harass, or humiliate them for it. That includes sharing that opinion with that person, because remember, “If it isn’t hurting me or anyone else, my opinion of it does not matter”. 

*And I won’t go into this one too much, but I want you to realize that you just objectified women’s bodies by comparing them to CANDY. My body is not made for your consumption, sorry. I am far more conscious than a fucking concoction of sugar.

I want to wrap it up with what I think this is all coming down to:
Are the women who are expressing their irrate feelings towards being objectified hurting you?

I sincerely hope you don’t think so, because that would be ridiculous. So why are you telling them, including me, to shut the fuck up about it or stop posting nudity? When I post an inappropriate message I received, it can be for many reasons. 1) Venting (which is acceptable, understandable, and healthy ^_^) 2) Reiterating that I do not want to be treated this way, and usually why, to deter further inappropriate behavior. 3) I found something that they said a perfect opportunity to address a larger issue, generally regarding the treatment of women. 

And one last time I will shout it proud

“I EXPECT to be objectified but I WILL NOT TOLERATE IT”.

If I endure this behavior it will not end. I know that I do not deserve to be mistreated or objectified, now its time to let the world know. And lemme tell ya, the number of ‘those messages’ I receive now does not even compare to how many I received when I first started posting personal nudity. Seems to me like my plan is working! :D I’m either convincing them that I actually deserve to be respected when I am not hurting anyone, or I’ve scared them into silence because they know I’ll chew em’ out. Ima keep on doing what I’m doing, and I sincerely hope that the both of you reconsider before you tell a girl that she in ANY way deserved to be mistreated. 

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